How Many Networkers?

 
How Many Networkers?

How many psychiatrists does it take to change a light bulb?

One, but the light bulb really has to want to change.

In the story, “The Star Thrower” (or “starfish story”) by Loren Eiseley (1907–1977), there was a young man walking down a deserted beach just after dawn. In the distance, he saw a frail old man. The man stood surrounded by millions of starfish stranded on the beach by the retreating tide. As he approached the old man, he saw him picking up a stranded starfish and throw it back into the sea. The young man watched in wonder as the old man, again and again moved many small starfish from the sand to the water.

He asked, “Old man, what are you doing?”. The old man explained that the stranded starfish would die if left in the morning sun.

“But there must be millions of starfish on this beach!”, Exclaimed the young man. “How can you make any difference?”

The old man looked down at the small starfish in his hand and as he threw it to the safety of the sea, he said, “I made a difference to this one”.

In life we all have choices. Our actions are direct results of our conscious choice to act in one way or another.

About fifteen seconds after each of us wake up on the morning of our networking meeting; we have a choice. We can stay in the warmth of our beds, or make an effort to go to and meet with fellow members and guests. I don’t think I have ever regretted the choice of getting up and going to a networking meeting.

There was a Fred Dagg song (NZ Entertainer - search on YouTube - it is there) in the 1970’s called ‘You don’t know how lucky you are’. The song, though funny, rings very true. I think if you sit for a moment's contemplation you soon realise just how lucky you are and realise how easy it for us to help other members by looking for and finding more opportunities.


In networking there is often a key part of a referral that is missed. That is the gratitude. Sometimes it can be weeks from when a referral is passed to us and we do business with the person. In this time the initial referral can be forgotten about.

You should always take time to thank the person who referred you to another, even if no business resulted. The gratitude you show will help cement the relationship with the other member even more. We all like our actions to be appreciated.

Another thing you should bear in mind is the concept of ‘paying it forward’, this means that you should help someone else without hesitation if you are able without, though of yourself or reward, it is simply about unrestrained giving.

So, how many networkers does it take to change the world?

One, but the member has to want to change...

Module Actions
Make a gratitude list of referrals you have received in the last moth
Call the members who referred you and thank them